To forgive and to forget : Easier said than done

If you have been married, you've been there. Your partner or so called the love of your life may have done something that has wounded you. Every time you see them, all you can see is that one scene stuck in your head. All you want to do is moving on, but the moment you close your eyes, you keep crying for the same thing. 

Over time, you know that in order for you to smile and live again is to forgive and forget. Though it may seems easy, some things are just easier said that done, right. Here are 5 tips to free you from your resentment today.

• Give time for yourself
• In the moment, we may feel that the person destroyed our life and it is the end of the world. But, it is not. Take a deep breathe,give yourself some time to cool off, the you'll see that it is not so. At the moment, it is good for you to be alone and think things through. 
• P/s: It is better to talk things rationally rather than emotionally.
• Focus on gratitude
• This could be the hardest part. All the good things seems to be out of memory. You are so mad that you regret every second you had with them. You are so full of rage that every apologies they made seems like another lie. 
• You are not alone, I feel you. You are not a bad person for feeling such rage. You are just a normal person who have been hurt. 
• After taking some time to cool off, try to re-focus your mind on the good things that happened in your life. Your life is full of blessings, be thankful for it.
• Do it for yourself
• You are not forgiving your partner because he deserves it. You forgive him because of you. Holding grudges will destroy you or even worse your soul. It hurts not only your partner, but also yourself. You forgive them to set yourself free. 
• Free to feel worthy of love again. Free to find your own happiness. 
• Do not try too hard
• If you want to let things go, just do it one step at a time. It is easier that way. Forcing and using all the energy to swept it all out at once will not get you to the preferred result. Accept the fact that you are angry and hurt. 
• Be patience and never blame yourself.

This post is for me and you.

To you who have been hurt bad enough that you want to scream out loud

To you who wonder what have you done wrong to be treated such way

To you who wants to let things go

Letting go of the pain so that you can embrace the happiness.

Aisyah